Eventually, in virtually every relationship the moment comes when the two sides stop paying attention to their choice of words and begin to push each other away using poorly thought-out phrases.
We at Eccenta decided it was time to work out how to preserve the warmth in a relationship and avoid ever letting things reach breaking point. It turns out that all you need to do is apply three simple rules of communication.
1. When speaking about your wishes, cut out “don’t“ and ”won’t.”
Elements of speech such as “don’t“ and ”won’t“ have the ability to give certain assertions a negative quality. Therefore, they’re not worth using when you talk about your wishes. Moreover, it’s often harder for your partner to understand how to act when they hear phrases like this, as their ambiguity leaves them with many different options.
- Bad: “I don’t want you to control me.”
- Good: ”I want you to trust me.”